Being in a new relationship feels wonderful. Those lovely moments you spend together, those chats you have, those funny and cozy pictures etc. In short, you have the time of your life. But a relationship is always a two-way thing. Both the individuals’ engaged need to understand each other well, compromises should be made and communication should be continuous even if it is a short one.
However, there are many types of relationships in the world. There are people who even after being in a relationship, seek their own selfish needs. They go out with that person as long as it serves to their ends. Although being selfish is profitable in this mean world, but it turns out real bad if the other person is so much in love with you.
It is always cruel of some people to break someone’s heart after so many happy moments we spend with them. It is very important to realize what you are feeling but it is even more important to know beforehand what your partner is feeling about you. Be it from the very start or after some time, it is possible that he/she have gotten weary of you. All you need to do is heed these signs in them and find out if they are really into you or not.
Here are 12 obvious signs to prove that you are in a selfish relationship.
1. If your partner always belittles you
If you are in a selfish relationship then this is the biggest sign to know about it. There is quite a huge difference between encouraging a person to achieve their goals and make them feel worthless. If you are committed to a selfish person, they will always look down upon you. According to him, only giving and not receiving anything in a relationship can lead to disaster. This is where the imbalance in a relationship being to exist.
“Self-absorption in all its forms kills empathy, let alone compassion. When we focus on ourselves, our world contracts as our problems and preoccupations loom large. But when we focus on others, our world expands. Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so seem smaller, and we increase our capacity for connection – or compassionate action,” says Psychologist Daniel Goleman and author of Emotional Intelligence.
2. If your partner believes that what he/she is doing is more important than you
The second sign that you are stuck in a selfish relationship is that the person. They would never take your needs into consideration. A selfish person will always think about himself/herself. They will never stand up for you.
“In an individual, selfishness uglifies the soul; for the human species, selfishness is extinction,” said David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas.
3. If your other half is always competitive and insecure
When you are in a relationship, both of you stand on an equal pedestal. There is no sign of inferiority complex between the two of you. You get along each other very well and grow as your relationship grows. But a selfish person does not think likewise at all. They will always try to better than you and feel envious of you. They know pretty well that you have such a thing they lack and that’s what makes them feel jealous of you.
4. If your partner never apologizes to you
If your partner can’t say sorry even if its solely his/her fault, then you are in a selfish relationship. Even after they committed some grave mistakes and still won’t admit their wrongdoing, it proves that they value themselves over truth. It also shows that you will never suffice to make them realize their mistakes. They are egoistic and never apologize to you first.
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